With the sun finally showing up and the parks filling with frisbees, ice creams, and BBQs, it’s officially outdoor scene season. For pups, handlers, and anyone with a submissive streak that wags at the sound of a leash clip, it’s time to get out from the dungeon and onto the grass.

Puppy play in public can be exhilarating. The fresh air, the visibility, the sheer thrill of being led by your handler down a side path of Hyde Park or sniffing your way through Hampstead Heath. But when we mix power dynamics with public play, especially in the UK, where kink still sits in a legal and cultural grey zone, it’s essential to keep things joyful and responsible.

1. Consent First, Collar Second

Before you throw on the hood or snap on the lead, talk. Yes, even if you’ve played a hundred times before. Outdoor scenes are not just indoor scenes with grass. There are new variables: the presence of the public, legal considerations, environmental hazards, and a more complex psychological headspace.

Ask:

• How visible are we okay being?

• Is the pup crawling or walking upright today?

• What happens if someone stares, points, or worse… interacts?

Negotiate in detail, not in vibes. Use clear safewords or non-verbal signals. Consider a subtle double-tap system or a squeaky toy with a secret code meaning “pause, please.”

2. Your Power Is a Privilege—Don’t Be a Prat

Outdoor puppy play often carries a dynamic that’s not just playful, it can lean heavy on obedience, control, and vulnerability.

In public, pups can feel extra exposed. Crawling on hands and knees in a busy park is not the same as doing it in a private playroom. A confident handler knows when to push and when to offer a quiet reassuring stroke behind the ear.

Keep your pup grounded, checked in, and affirmed. Power play doesn’t mean abandoning emotional responsibility. It means doubling down on it.

3. UK Law: Kink in Public Isn’t a Free-for-All

Quick reminder for the frisky:

• Indecent exposure is a criminal offence. That includes butt plugs with tails if they’re, ahem, making an appearance.

• Outraging public decency is a very British way of saying “you made someone uncomfortable enough to call the police.”

• Leather hoods and leads might fly in Soho, but could raise eyebrows in Surrey.

This doesn’t mean don’t play outside. It just means do it with stealth, style, and sense.

Try:

• Puppy play in athletic gear, not fetishwear.

• Collars that pass for fashion.

• Playful leash walks where it could be a cute couples thing (the British public is weirdly tolerant of that sort of eccentricity).

Private gardens, secluded woods, or kink-friendly outdoor events like Doghouse or Pup Out London? All excellent choices.

4. The Kit List: What’s in Your Outdoor Play Bag?

If you’re heading out for a day of puppy play, pack like a scout:

• Water & snacks – hydration is not optional.

• First aid kit – knees, elbows, pride: protect it all.

• Towel or blanket – for sitting, aftercare, or hiding when your mum walks by.

• Sun protection – pup hoods can cook your head like a pasty.

• Spare joggers & hoodie – just in case you need to de-pup fast.

Bonus: bring a treat bag with snacks for rewards. Or better yet, a tennis ball and a sense of humour.

❤️ 5. Aftercare Isn’t Just for Indoors

Public play can take a surprising emotional toll especially on pups who submit deeply. The pressure of performance, the potential for shame, and the vulnerability of being so visibly “owned” can hit harder than expected.

So when you unclip the leash? Don’t just pat their head and head for Tesco. Sit down. Debrief. Hug. Laugh about the man who barked back. Validate what was brave, sexy, weird, or overwhelming. This is what deepens trust and makes the next play even better.

In Short: Be Seen, Be Sensible, Be the Goodest Pup

Outdoor puppy play is a gorgeous way to blend kink, submission, and joy. When done right, it’s empowering, heady, and deeply connective. Just remember: we share our spaces with the public and it’s our job to be cheeky without being a public nuisance.

So clip on that leash, pack your water, and play like the sun came out just for you. Happy fetching, pups.

BDSM doesn’t have to mean breaking the bank on expensive gear. Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned player looking to get creative, your home is full of potential tools to enhance your play. However, safety is always key, so let’s explore some common household items that can be repurposed for BDSM fun while ensuring they’re used responsibly.

1. Sensory Play: From Kitchen to Kink

One of the easiest ways to add variety to your scenes is through sensory play. Different textures and temperatures can heighten pleasure and anticipation.

• Wooden Spoons & Spatulas – Perfect for impact play. They provide a satisfying sting and can be used for light spanking or more intense strikes. Always test on yourself first to gauge the sensation.

• Ice Cubes – Run them along the skin to contrast heat and cold, especially after a wax play session (if done safely).

• Feathers & Paintbrushes – Light touches can drive a sub wild, especially when blindfolded.

2. Restraints & Bondage: Tying It All Together

You don’t need specialized cuffs and ropes when you have everyday alternatives.

• Scarves & Ties – Soft and gentle, these can make great beginner-friendly wrist and ankle restraints. However, always ensure circulation isn’t cut off.

• Stockings & Pantyhose – Stretchy and effective, but be mindful of tension to avoid injury.

• Belts – Leather belts can double as makeshift restraints or even impact tools. Make sure they’re in good condition (no rough edges).

Safety Tip:

Always use quick-release knots or items that can be removed swiftly in case of an emergency. Safety scissors are a must-have in any bondage scene.

3. Sensory Deprivation & Control

Taking away a sense can heighten all the others, increasing submission and trust.

• Pillowcases or Sleep Masks – A simple blindfold can make every touch unpredictable and more intense.

• Earbuds or Noise-Canceling Headphones – Blocking out sound deepens submissive surrender. Add some erotic audio or whispered commands for extra intensity.

• Cling Film (Plastic Wrap) – Used carefully, it can create a restrictive sensation over the body, but never wrap around the neck or face.

4. Household Items for Impact Play

Impact play is a staple in BDSM, and many everyday items can serve as tools—just be sure they’re used responsibly.

• Rulers & Chopsticks – Great for sharp, precise strikes. Ideal for tapping or punishing specific areas.

• Rolled-Up Newspapers or Magazines – A makeshift bat for softer thuds without the risk of serious injury.

• Coat Hangers (Plastic or Padded) – These can deliver a unique sting but should be used with caution.

Safety Tip:

Always negotiate limits beforehand and use a safeword. Test the intensity on yourself first to understand its effect.

5. Advanced Play: Temperature & Sensation

For those wanting to explore temperature and endurance play:

• Clothespins & Binder Clips – Great for nipple play or pressure points, but introduce them slowly and avoid sensitive nerves.

• Metal Spoons (Heated or Chilled) – Run them across the skin after being warmed in hot water or cooled in ice.

• Candle Wax (Only Paraffin or Soy Wax!) – Standard household candles burn too hot, so always use body-safe wax.

  Final Thoughts: Kink Smart, Kink Safe

  While getting creative with household items is exciting, safety should always be the priority. Always inspect items for rough edges, ensure proper aftercare, and communicate openly with your partner.

  What are your favorite household BDSM hacks? Share your experiences in the comments!

As we step into the Year of the Serpent, we at The Serpent Rooms are embracing the powerful theme of transformation. Just as the serpent sheds its skin to reveal something new, we celebrate the art of reinvention and self-discovery through the liberating experience of sissification.

Sissification as a Form of Empowerment

At its core, sissification is about freedom—the freedom to experiment, to redefine, and to fully embody desires that may have been suppressed. It’s a journey that is both sensual and psychological, allowing participants to explore power dynamics, submission, and personal transformation in a space free from judgment.

In the spirit of the Year of the Serpent, we encourage you to ask yourself: What parts of your identity do you wish to shed? What new, empowered version of yourself are you ready to embrace?

Want to become a Sissy? Here’s some tips:

Come, shed your past, embrace your evolution, and explore the power within. The Year of the Serpent is yours to claim. Are you ready to transform?

In the world of BDSM fashion, two timeless materials dominate the scene: latex and leather. Each one has its own unique appeal, offering different sensations, looks, and feels that can dramatically change the atmosphere of any dungeon play or fetish experience. While everyone has personal preferences, the question remains: is there a clear favorite? And if so, why? Let’s dive into the pros and cons of latex and leather to help you decide which material might be right for your dungeon adventures.

Latex: Sleek, Shiny, and Sensational

Latex is an incredibly popular choice in the BDSM community due to its skin-tight fit and glossy finish. The material hugs every curve, giving the wearer a smooth, almost futuristic look that’s equal parts fetish and fantasy. Here’s what makes latex so special:

Pros of Latex:

1. Visual Appeal: Latex has a unique, high gloss shine that stands out immediately. It’s almost like a second skin, providing an intensely alluring look that’s both seductive and edgy.
2. Tactile Sensation: Latex is known for its unique feel. For many, wearing latex offers a sensory experience like no other; the tightness creates a “hugging” effect that can heighten sensations and increase arousal during scenes.
3. Versatility: Available in many colors, from traditional black to striking reds, purples, and even neons, latex can be molded into anything from full bodysuits to minimalist harnesses. This variety lets wearers express different aspects of their kink.
4. Visual Impact in the Dungeon: The sleek appearance of latex can be captivating under low, colored lighting or candlelight, creating a visually striking atmosphere in any dungeon setting.

Cons of Latex:

1. High Maintenance: Latex requires special care, including frequent polishing to maintain its shine. It’s also susceptible to tearing if not handled correctly, so it’s not the most forgiving material.
2. Comfort: Latex doesn’t breathe well, meaning it can become uncomfortable if worn for long periods, especially in warm environments. Sweat can build up, so it’s not ideal for prolonged wear during lengthy scenes.
3. Price: High-quality latex isn’t cheap, and a full latex ensemble can cost significantly more than other materials. Plus, its maintenance costs can add up.
4. Sensitivity Concerns: Some people have latex allergies, making it entirely unsuitable for them. Even if someone isn’t allergic, the tightness can cause skin irritation for others.

Leather: Timeless, Powerful, and Classic

Leather has a long-standing place in BDSM fashion. Its natural texture, durable nature, and distinctive scent have made it a go-to material for many who enjoy the psychological aspects of power dynamics and fetishwear.

Pros of Leather:

1. Durability: Leather is built to last. With proper care, a leather piece can endure years of heavy use, making it ideal for those who prioritize longevity in their fetish wardrobe.
2. Comfort and Fit: Leather tends to adapt to the body over time, becoming more comfortable with wear. It also breathes better than latex, making it suitable for long sessions and scenes.
3. Aesthetic Appeal: Leather has a classic BDSM look that speaks to power and intensity. The soft texture combined with its strength makes it an ideal material for anything from harnesses to collars to full outfits.
4. Sensory Elements: The sound, smell, and feel of leather all contribute to an experience that’s earthy and raw, perfect for primal scenes or power-play dynamics. The scent of leather, in particular, is iconic and often triggers strong reactions.

Cons of Leather:

1. Weight: Leather can be heavy, and for some, this can be restrictive and uncomfortable over long periods.
2. Maintenance: Like latex, leather also requires maintenance, including regular conditioning to avoid cracking and ensure longevity. High-quality leather requires commitment.
3. Ethical Concerns: Because leather is made from animal hides, some may feel uneasy about using it, or they may seek out vegan alternatives, which may not have the same durability or feel.
4. Limited Color Range: While leather can be dyed, it generally doesn’t have the same vibrant color options as latex. Leather tends to come in traditional shades like black, brown, or red, which might limit some creative options.

The Favorite: Latex or Leather?

There’s no definitive “winner” between latex and leather. Personal taste plays a huge role in what Dommes/Subs prefer to wear at The Serpent Rooms. That said, leather has traditionally been more common, especially for Dommes and those who enjoy a rugged, powerful aesthetic. Leather’s durability and comfort often make it a preferred choice for longer, more intense scenes. However, latex has seen a surge in popularity due to its sensory appeal and aesthetic, particularly in fetish and fashion-forward communities.

In general, those looking for a visually striking, skin tight experience may gravitate towards latex. Meanwhile, those who value comfort, tradition, and durability may lean towards leather. Ultimately, the choice depends on the energy you want to bring into the dungeon. Is it the sleek allure of latex, or the timeless strength of leather?

An overnight dungeon session at The Serpent Rooms is unlike any other experience within the BDSM realm. It extends beyond a brief encounter, allowing both Domme and submissive the time and space to fully explore the dynamics of power, trust, and vulnerability. This type of session offers a rare opportunity for deep psychological and emotional immersion, transforming the dungeon into a world apart from the ordinary. From the Domme’s perspective, these sessions are a true exercise in control, pacing, and the delicate balance of power.

Setting the Scene: The Dungeon Atmosphere

A dungeon is more than just a room; it is a carefully crafted environment that enhances the experience of submission and dominance. Every detail in the dungeon serves a purpose, from the strategic placement of restraints to the low lighting that sets the mood. The atmosphere is designed to create an immediate shift in the submissive’s mindset, allowing them to step away from the outside world and into a space where control is surrendered.

For the Domme, the dungeon is a stage where power is not only exerted but cultivated over time. The tools of the trade: whips, floggers, restraints, chains are all part of the toolkit, but it’s the overall environment that heightens the intensity. The submissive enters the space knowing they are about to embark on a journey led by someone who has meticulously prepared for every moment.

The Power of Time: Pacing the Experience

One of the most defining aspects of an overnight session is the luxury of time. Unlike shorter sessions, which may be limited by the clock, an overnight session allows the Domme to take control of the pacing. This slower, more deliberate approach offers the opportunity to build anticipation, heighten tension, and explore the depths of submission in a way that is impossible during a brief encounter.

At the start of the session, the submissive may feel anticipation, mixed with nerves. But as the hours unfold, the Domme is able to create an ebb and flow of experiences. The session can shift from moments of quiet contemplation to more intense periods of physical and psychological domination. This gradual build-up allows for a more profound experience, where the submissive is not just responding to commands but deeply immersed in the power exchange.

Psychological Depth: Beyond Physical Domination

While physical dominance is often a key element in BDSM, an overnight session allows for deeper psychological engagement. Over time, the Domme can guide the submissive into different mental states, using tools like sensory deprivation, verbal commands, and emotional control to shape the experience. Without the pressure of time, the Domme can carefully craft the emotional landscape, encouraging the submissive to confront fears, push boundaries, and ultimately surrender more fully.

The psychological aspect is often what makes an overnight session so unique. The extended time allows for trust to develop in ways that shorter sessions may not. The submissive, bound and vulnerable, learns to rely on the Domme for guidance, security, and even emotional release. This dynamic, which evolves over the course of the night, is one of the most rewarding aspects of an overnight session for both parties.

The Emotional Arc: Highs and Lows

An overnight session naturally brings with it emotional highs and lows. The extended nature of the session means that both Domme and submissive experience a wide range of emotions from the initial excitement and anticipation to moments of exhaustion, vulnerability, and reflection. For the submissive, the emotional journey can be just as impactful as the physical one, as they navigate the complexities of surrender and trust.

The Domme, on the other hand, controls the emotional arc of the session. Whether through words of praise, moments of silence, or deliberate acts of domination, the Domme leads the submissive through each emotional phase. This deep emotional connection is part of what makes an overnight session such a powerful experience, as it allows for a level of intimacy and trust that shorter sessions often do not.

Aftercare and Reflection

As the session comes to an end, the role of the Domme shifts from dominant to caregiver. After hours of physical and emotional intensity, aftercare is crucial to ensure that the submissive feels safe, grounded, and cared for. This may involve removing restraints, offering water, or providing comforting words, allowing the submissive to gently re-enter the reality outside the dungeon.

Aftercare is not just about physical comfort; it is about acknowledging the emotional depth of the experience. Both Domme and submissive have been through an intense journey together, and the bond that is formed in the dungeon often lingers long after the session has ended.

Why an Overnight Dungeon Session is Unique

An overnight dungeon session is an experience like no other. It offers the chance for both Domme and submissive to fully explore the depths of their dynamic, pushing beyond the limitations of time and physicality to engage on a deeper psychological and emotional level. The luxury of time allows for a carefully crafted experience, one that is rich with anticipation, control, and trust.

For the Domme, this type of session is a test of mastery not only in physical dominance but in the ability to guide the submissive through an extended, transformative journey. For the submissive, it is a rare opportunity to surrender fully, to confront their desires and vulnerabilities in a controlled, safe, and deeply immersive environment.

In the end, an overnight session is more than just a BDSM encounter, it is a profound, experience that leaves a lasting impact on both sides of the power dynamic.

If you’re interested in hiring our discreet dungeon space for an overnight stay, please don’t hesitate to reach out. We are dedicated to providing a safe, comfortable, and fully equipped environment for all your needs. For inquiries, availability, and bookings, contact us here .

Exploring Female Dominance in 2024:

The Role of Male Escorts in Empowering Women

Helping women unleash their inner domme

Female empowerment comes in many forms and it can be anywhere – from dominating in
the boardroom to dominating in the bedroom. Empowering women to be the best version of
themselves has become one of the biggest movements in modern society.

Empowering women in different areas of their lives gives them the freedom to express their
true power and confidence in settings that are generally occupied mainly by men.

All over the world, women are being praised for asserting their dominance in public spaces,
but unfortunately in these communities, women are still being shamed for feeling
empowered by their own sexuality. However, this is gradually changing, and we are ushering
in a world where women feel confident in their bodies and their own pleasure.

In this article, we look at women stepping into their dominant role and learning the ropes
about the BDSM scene and everything they need to know about unleashing their inner
domme. This is something that can be learned along with a long-term partner, or an escort
that is experienced and well-versed in the BDSM community.

What is female dominance?

Female dominance is when a woman feels empowered and confident enough in her abilities.
She is willing to take charge of her life to achieve her objectives. However, his is mostly
referred to in relation to employment in male-dominated fields.

Nowadays you are seeing more women in fields that were rife with men, this includes STEM
fields, leadership roles, and even the manual labour field.

In the same way, female dominance in a sexual setting is something that is becoming
increasingly popular as women find the confidence to prioritise their desires and needs.

Female sexuality and the history of subservience

Since the dawn of time, the pleasure women have experienced during sexual intercourse
has been downplayed. The role in marriage was narrowed down to the bearing of children
and being the homemaker – a lot of these beliefs are still prevalent in modern society.

Societal views on women’s bodies and their expression of sexuality tend to be rooted in
control, aspects like religion and morality were used as tools to govern the experience of
girlhood. These same aspects were not extended to men and boys.

Women have fought for equality on many fronts and have succeeded. However, the battle to
own their desires and bodies has faced a lot of pushback. In order to become more confident
in your sexuality and desires, you need to unlearn a lot of what you have been taught and
accept your needs and wants.

Women are still shamed, victim-blamed, and called prudish in the same breath. Other
challenges include reproductive health. In many parts of the world, women are still not
offered birth control for free or are taxed on menstruation products.

We are slowly witnessing change, and women need to take ownership of themselves and
express their truths.

How woman can express their dominance

When it comes to learning to be dominant in a sexual setting, you need to start by taking
ownership of your sexuality – either on your own or with a partner. You need to learn how to
have a healthy relationship with your body and be accepting of your sexual desires.

It is not easy, and it doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time to reach this point of acceptance
of yourself. You have to actively dismantle the internalised perceptions you have of sex and
what is deemed as acceptable by others – namely men.

Thereafter, you need to focus on your body and your own pleasure. Start on your own, as
you need to learn about yourself before expecting another to learn about what you like.

You can then explore what you like with others. Always speak up and ask for what you like.
In the same vein, don’t be meek and have the courage to say no when you don’t like your
experience or start feeling uncomfortable. By being vocal about your experience, you will be
able to lead the experience in a way you would like it to unfold.

This can be the start of your journey as a dominant.

Asserting dominance in a sexual setting

Being dominant in a sexual setting is about being confident and assured in yourself and your
needs and wants.

What makes a good dominant is listening and understanding your partner’s needs. It is also
about knowing when they may need a break and by respecting if they want to stop the
session. It is important to know that control is give and take in these situations and it requires
a lot of trust between you and your partner.

It takes some work to reach the point where you become dominant, but you can start by
taking small steps, such as being confident and straight up asking your partner about what
you want from them. As you progress, you will become more confident in asking for more
and exploring with a partner. Communication is key in these situations.

Exploring Kink safely

To learn more about kinks and dominance, you need to ensure that you always make the
safety of yourself and your partner a priority. As the dominant in the scene, it is up to you to
make sure that communication between you and your partner is always clear when you are
engaging in play. Communication is important when exploring kinks.

There are many ways to learn and explore kinks. There are erotic books that feature BDSM
as a major theme, but these need to be taken with a grain of salt, as these topics may differ
from how they play out in real life. Seek out sex workers who offer teaching and mentorship
in these areas.

Visit forums to meet like-minded people to discuss and learn more about the kink community
and the different types of kinks that you can possibly engage in. If you venture into learning
through pornographic materials, once again take it with a grain of salt as these don’t exactly
pan out in the same ways in real life – exaggerations may occur with what you see in
comparison to how it plays out.

The different types of kink

The umbrella term BDSM is broken into three main categories but encapsulates the entire
kink community. Firstly the BD can refer to Bondage and Discipline, while the SD can refer
to Dominance and Submission, and lastly, the SM refers to Sadism and Masochism
It is important to remember that while the BDSM community primarily deals with aspects that
are sexual in nature, not every act performed requires or results in intercourse. It mainly
focuses on establishing trust between partners and an exchange of power based on this
trust. Consent is key for this relationship and what makes it widely acceptable.

Some acts people in BDSM can engage in include biding partners up through cuffing,
muffling, rope play, or any other means to restrict movements.
The submissive partner is required to follow the orders that the dominant one gives. They
can set up rules during a scene, and these rules are to be followed strictly by the
submissive, otherwise they will receive a consensual punishment.

When it comes to these rules you can see instances of dominants giving orders, brat taming
their submissive, or engaging in financial dominance. Sometimes the dominant can exhibit
sadistic behaviour like engaging in edgeplay, spanking or impact play, and even using wax
during the scene. The submissive on the receiving end can be considered a masochist as
they revel in their humiliation and pain.

There are certain instances where a person displays tendencies of both dominant and
submissive. They are known as a switch and can take on their role based on how they feel
at the time of the scene.

Communication is key

As it is in any part of life, communication is a key factor in making any kind of relationship
work. The same applies to BDSM relationships and people engaging in scenes.

It is common for play to take place between two people only, and between them, there is a
set of rules with limits that both persons introduce. These limits are separated into hard and
soft limits.

Soft Limits are a list of acts that the parties are not entirely comfortable with, while hard limits
are acts that are completely unacceptable to perform.

During play, there are ways to check in with your partner to make sure that they are okay
and enjoying the session. The most common way to check in with your partner is by using
the traffic light system. When you check in, your partner will tell you how they are based on
the colours of the traffic light. Green means everything is okay, and red means to cease play
as something is wrong. Yellow or orange means to be careful as it might end up being too
much and may need to stop altogether.

Another way to communicate is through using a safeword. Both partners should have a
safeword. It should be a word that is easy enough to remember, but something that won’t
normally be said during play. When a partner says this, it is similar to calling out the red of
the traffic light system. Something is wrong and play needs to stop immediately.

Sex and relationships

BDSM and being dominated is not for everyone – non-kinky sex is known as Vanilla, and that
is perfectly okay too.

That is why when you are getting in touch with your inner domme, you need to chat with your
partner about wanting to express this side of yourself so that you both will be mentally and
physically prepared for non-vanilla sex.

As you venture into the BDSM community, your tastes may elevate but your partner may not
feel the same way. Sometimes discord can happen, but being compatible is very important
in the kink community because you absolutely can’t engage in play with a person who is
unwilling, and neither can you coerce them into engaging.

Unless your partner is comfortable with learning with you, you may have to seek out like-
minded people to engage with instead. Setting rules and boundaries with your partner in this
regard is very important for the sake of your relationship.

Finding people to engage with

There are many ways to meet with people from the community. When members of the
BDSM community meet up for a social gathering in a public setting, it is called a munch.

There are also forums and BDSM-dedicated chatrooms where you can meet new people.
These forums and chatrooms will help you become aware of events, clubs and expos that
may be happening close to where you live. You can attend and learn more about the
community nearer to you.

The different types of escorts and which
acceptable in different situations

Looking for someone to engage in play with, needs to be assessed properly, as there are
services which offer male escorts, but their services are purely social and do not include any
sexual services.

On the other hand, in the kink community, there are escorts that provide services that are of
the BDSM nature. While their services are of a risque nature, it doesn’t have to involve
intercourse.

Do thorough research about the type of escort that you wish to utilise and services the offer
before making a booking.

Kink-related rentals and other equipment

For the kink community, getting the necessary equipment will not always be easy, as you
need to make sure that they are made from reliable materials that won’t hurt your partners.

There are dedicated BDSM stores where you can purchase the necessary items from. There
are also online stores that will provide you with your needs while also being discreet about
their service, ensuring your privacy.

While your home may be a space you are comfortable in, there isn’t always the room or
privacy that you need to engage in certain kink activities, there are spaces that offer up
dungeons to be rented, and equipment that can be used in your play.

The bottom line

In order to channel your inner dominance, you need to be able to become more confident
with yourself and move with assurance in your sexuality and desires.

The kink community is large with many acts and plays that you can engage in, but in order
to be a good and caring domme, you need to practice care and attention to detail to keep
your partner’s trust.

Sharing and learning about BDSM with your partner can be a great way to learn about each
other sexually while gaining confidence in yourself and what you enjoy in the bedroom.

Gorgeous, New Kink venue in London for Hire: BDSM Playspace Amanita Studio

If you feel like you want a change from the traditional dungeon aesthetic found in most bdsm playspaces in London and you are interested in exploring your kink and fetishes. Then look no further, here is a London playspace that has been carefully designed and curated to a high standard. Come and visit the beautiful Amanita Studio.

Amanita Studio is a BDSM sanctuary away from the outside world and is located in Walthamstow. It is a cosy sumptuous venue in London where you can come and explore your kinky desires. Amanita Studio has been purpose built from scratch to a high specification, with bespoke BDSM furniture, a fully curatable smart lighting system, fitted bluetooth sound system, high quality equipment and stylish attention to detail in fittings and furnishings. There’s a beautifully decorated shower and separate toilet, a sofa bed as well as a kitchen area.

Amanita Studio welcomes both professionals and careful public to hire out the space for play, sessions and content creation. They even offer discounts  for regular users of the space and those from marginalised communities, making Amanita studio one of the most inclusive and welcoming kink spaces in London.

Equipment at Amanita Studio

Some of the equipment available at Amanita Studio include a beautiful bespoke bed and cage, which has been made from elm and Croatian Ash with reinforced copper piping underneath. It has stocks at either end for heads, wrists and ankles. There is also a gold shibari / rope bondage suspension cube ideal for experienced rope players.

Amanita Studio is named after a genus of mushroom. There are many different species of Amanita fungi,  some which have the possibility of healing and others the anticipation of danger. Amanita mushrooms are magical, intoxicating and experts in transformation. Therefore book this gorgeous new BDSM playspace, Amanita Studio, for your own magical and intoxicating kink experience!

Improving Intimacy Through Phone Sex with BDSM Talk

Improving Intimacy Through Phone Sex with BDSM Talk. BDSM is a very popular practice in 2022, and contrary to what many may think, nothing about this practice is unhealthy. If everything is consensual, of course. BDSM can be about learning how to be obedient, more patient, and humble. It can also be just about that sexy power roleplay, which excites and turns many people on. BDSM couples can just try a few kinks that belong to this practice, or they can be BDSMers at heart. They like all the fundamentals and are okay with more extreme sides of BDSM to boot.  

How to get intimate with your phone sex partner?

1. Every BDSM relationship is unique
2. Share your dirty secrets
3. Choose the most enjoyable BDSM topics together
4. Try new things your phone sex partner suggests

1. Every BDSM relationship is unique

BDSM sexting is maybe the mildest compared to all other acts that belong to this umbrella term. But it depends on what it includes. It is mild if it is only about your superior lover telling you when and how to masturbate. It can be more extreme if they don’t let you orgasm or command you to hurt yourself. But every BDSM relationship is unique and there are sex chat sites like Arousr out there to partner up with bdsm lovers. People choose what they like the most. 

2. Share your dirty secrets

Now, the question is how to improve intimacy through phone sex with BDSM talk? It’s simple! Just be who you are. What connects people and helps them build their intimacy? Revealing secrets and telling the truth. What are your dirtiest secrets bedroom-wise? Do you have kinks you would like to try, something you have never done before? Share everything with your phone sex partner. Never make them do things they are not comfortable with and never let them force you to do things you don’t like. But talking about everything that gets you off is always acceptable. And not just that – it is rewarding, gratifying, and connects lovers. In a BDSM relationship, one of the essentials is to be your true self and respect yourself and your partner.

3. Choose the most enjoyable BDSM topics together

To have a successful phone sex BDSM talk, you need to take care of both your own needs and the needs of the other person. You have to choose what arouses both of you. What kinks that belong to BDSM make both of you happy? Both of you must give and receive, listen to each other, and make an effort to please, not just each other, but yourselves too. BDSM phone sex is even more intimate than other types of phone sex.  The second you reveal to someone you are into it, you are sharing something very personal about yourself with them. Having phone sex is one thing, and vanilla sex is something everyone expects from everyone. But when you admit to someone that BDSM is your thing, you are revealing to them you are kinkier than others. Your needs are different, unique, and a bit unusual to others. 

That alone already builds intimacy. But if you had the courage to admit you were into BDSM, you will probably also have it to stay truthful to yourself. But don’t make it all about you! You also need to ask questions and try to learn all you can about your sexting preferences in the bedroom. No one becomes intimate if they don’t try to learn things about their partners.  You don’t have to burden them with too many questions, but keep the conversation going. If they have already asked you a question, this time you ask them. And it should be mutual. 

4. Try new things your phone sex partner suggests

It is also important to be open to hearing what they have to say. Maybe your sexting partner doesn’t have the same kinks, but they also like BDSM in general. Sometimes, to have a healthy relationship or just a good phone sex conversation with a stranger, you will have to open up to something new. Things you haven’t tried before. Maybe they suggest humiliation, and you are not okay with it. At first. But give it a thought. Try it, at least a milder version of it. Maybe you end up liking it. No one has to push you to anything, but you can try to broaden your mind. Experiment, give different things a go!

Intimacy is all about understanding the needs of that other person and letting them understand ours. It is never about persuading and manipulating others to do certain things just to be like us. It is more about opening up to someone else’s world so that we experience some things together. BDSM phone sex can be very enjoyable, but keep these things in mind! If you do, you will always know how to get intimate with your partner. 

Make Your Fantasy Come to Life with Fetish Escorts in London

Fetishes can be a healthy part of your sex life. From bondage to role-play, fetishes are more common than you realise. However, learning about them often feels intimidating, especially for the inexperienced. 

That’s where fetish escorts come in. 

Highly experienced and professional, fetish escorts in London can help you uncover your raunchiest sexual desires or live out your fantasies in a safe and consensual environment that is free from any judgment. They are well versed in a wide array of kinks and fetishes. 

If you want to dive into this world, here are some of the most common fetishes that you should absolutely know about.

Role-play

Roleplaying in fetishism involves acting out a fantasy while engaging in sexual activity. Each person usually plays a different persona. Although roleplaying covers a wide range of sexual scenarios and activities, it mostly involves power play, such as boss-and-employee or doctor-and-patient scenes.

Depending on your desires, costumes can be a part of role-play as they make the scenarios seem more lifelike. 

In real life, you probably don’t want to get sexy with your doctor because that is unprofessional and strange. But in a fantasy scenario, that taboo heightens the eroticism. Dressed up as a doctor, a fetish escort can indulge in your fantasy in a consensual way.

Other role-play scenarios might feel more taboo. The classic professor-and-student scenario is one such example.

BDSM

BDSM is short for Bondage, Discipline, Submission and Masochism. It can be a more intense form of roleplaying, involving pain, humiliation, advanced bondage and more.

One partner takes on a dominant role and has control over bonding, whipping or spanking. The other partner takes on a more submissive role. 

Fetish escorts in London can take on either role, depending on their partner or the sexual scenario. You just have to express your desire in detail. Since BDSM can get quite intense, it’s important to find a partner or partners who respect your limits. 

Hiring a fetish escort can help you explore your sexual desires in your own terms. Whether through a formal contract or verbal agreement prior to the act, a professional escort can make you feel pleasure without threatening your safety. 

Strap-on

Strap-on sex is a common fetish enjoyed by men who identify as the submissive in the BDSM world. A fetish escort not only has the know-how but the tools to help you explore new sensations like anal pleasure.

A lot of men who love strap-on sex find accessories and activities that aren’t associated with conventional sex enormously appealing. For others, the pain and vulnerability that they feel in these scenarios are the most arousing.

High-end escorts can help you explore different fantasies without disrespecting your boundaries. Trust is important in strap-on sex as it places the submissive in a very vulnerable position. This is also why it’s such a popular fetish in the world of BDSM.

Foot Fetish

Second only to genitalia, the feet are the most commonly fetishized body part. Foot fetish, also known as podophilia, is suprisingly common as other types of fetishes. 

It refers to sexual interest in feet, ankles or legs. Some might get aroused by nails or jewellery. Others might find stockings, high heels and accessories that cover these areas sexually appealing.

Depending on your type of foot fetish, an escort could wear the garments that you find the most arousing. She could also engage in foot play – whether it be tickling, rubbing or massaging. 

Dominance and submission

A person can have several fetishes, which sometimes overlap. Take dominance and submission for example. It can overlap with role-playing, strap-on sex, foot fetish or spanking. No matter what the scene is, one person usually has power over the other. The submissive follows the orders and is the recipient of the sensations.

If you like dominance, feet could be part of that scenario. You might find it arousing when a sexual partner worships you at your feet.

If you have a foot fetish and you’re into submission, it might be the other way around. You might like it more when you kneel at your partner’s feet.

Dominance and submission can involve accessories and toys for binding or spanking. It can also involve kinky acts like slapping or humiliation. 

An escort who is well versed in fetishism can help you figure out your deepest desires by exploring different erotic scenarios. 

At London Prive, you’ll find gorgeous and seductive fetish escorts in London that you can trust with your deepest and kinkiest secrets. These escorts can help you learn how to embrace your erotic desires and feel comfortable with your fetishes in a safe way.

Interesting BDSM Clothing for Beginners

Interesting BDSM Clothing for Beginners

BDSM clothing can seem like part of a hardcore scene, only accessible once you’ve gotten into the lifestyle a bit. In fact, the BDSM scene has quite a bit of fun clothing that doesn’t quite stand out as much as you might think. If you’ve been interested in dabbling in BDSM, check out these introductory BDSM clothing options.

Thigh High Stockings

Plenty of people incorporate thigh highs into their ensemble, even if they’re not at all interested in BDSM. However, latex or leather thigh highs, whether made of real or faux materials, are a great way to move from general lingerie to a BDSM look. A complete beginner can just get a pair of faux latex stockings and put them on under a pair of heels to take their outfit to the next level; as you get more comfortable, you may want to look into real latex or extremely high heels.

Bodysuits

Bodysuits come in all shapes and sizes, and some of them are great for more vanilla play. However, a leather or latex bodysuit, especially one with highly revealing fishnet accents, can be the perfect addition to a BDSM wardrobe. Pair them with garters and stockings to bring even more of a hardcore edge to your look, or put preexisting lingerie underneath to make your transition into BDSM clothing a little smoother.

Corsets

Whether genuine or just a lookalike, corsets are one of the most recognizable pieces of BDSM clothing. With elegant lacing up the back and boning around the sides to create a more appealing shape, an over bust corset is one of the best ways to make yourself look and feel a bit sexier, especially as you introduce more hardcore elements into your play. You can even put on a corset over a sexy ensemble to be more risqué outside of the bedroom.

Strappy Lingerie

When it comes to lingerie, lace and satin are usually king. Not so with BDSM lingerie; the addition of straps and buckles can create a satisfyingly caged feeling that will easily lead into more intense play like collars and handcuffs. Take a simpler step by using a full-body strap halter that could pass for an intensely sexual swimsuit, or go all the way and buy something with chain details to delve more deeply into the world of ownership and caging.

No matter what level of interest you have in BDSM, there’s an option that you can use to feel both comfortable and naughty. That way, you can get started in the most comfortable way possible, then turn up the heat. Make your move into the world of BDSM clothing by utilizing these beginner-friendly options for your first purchase.